The Surprising Reason I Used to Hate Birthdays

Something was off

I should be happy

Surrounded by friends

My wife organized a big birthday party

For me.

Yet,

Something just wasn’t right

Why was she with her friends all night?

Was she hitting on her friend’s husband?

Why wasn’t she with me?

Why did she throw this party anyway?

And then ignore me.

Why is she so icy cold toward me?

Then, she stayed out all night

Again.

Leaving me staring at the ceiling.

Hungover and anxious in the middle of the night.

Where the F was my wife?

She finally got home

That’s when I got the speech

“I love you but I’m not in love with you”

Heart booming in my ears

Palms sweating.

What do I do to fix this?

I’ll do anything to avoid this pain.

For a couple of days, I was the perfect husband.

Hoping to fix things by being on best behavior.

Maybe, just maybe I dodged a bullet

Then she went out with girlfriends again

Followed by the dreaded “I need space, you’re suffocating me”

It’s 3am on a weeknight and she’s still not home

Googling “wife needs space” and I found this guy who seemed to know what I was going through.

Everything I had tried wasn’t working.

I learned how I was adding negative pressure.

I gotta talk to this guy.

When we have a call, I learn about the impact of high-quality initiated men guiding along the self-discovery and personal growth path.

And, the sad reality most of us don’t have one high-quality man in our life today.

After we talk, I feel more confident than I had in a long, long time.

One conversation changed my life.

That’s the power of coaching.

Many times we are nervous that we can’t feel confident to show up with somebody shining a light on our shadows.

But, what if you could create your own certainty

From within?

By backing away from the fire and loosening your grip

Learning to do nothing.

Just be.

Think More and Talk Less.

When you stop grasping for a specific outcome and demanding certainty from her, you’ll relax. 

Do you have an initiated man willing to listen deeply and hold up a mirror to your thinking, opening up blind spots?

I Want to Play Full Out and Fearless with You!

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