“I just don’t trust your changes are real.”
That cut me to the core.
But was she wrong?
Could she see things I couldn’t?
For months now, I was walking on eggshells after getting the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” speech.
Asking everyone who would listen how to fix things so the hurting could stop.
The clock was running down on our relationship, and I just found out there was one.
Feeling conflicted, panicked, trying to keep my family together.
“What if the only way to fix things is to focus on yourself, get back to your true purpose?” asked my coach again for what seemed like the 97th time.
The reality of that question finally hit home.
I had been changing things to try to save something that was already gone.
It was time to start doing things for me and me alone.
“What if your wife has a bionic sense of smell for the BS you tell yourself?”
That got me thinking.
What was I hiding from myself? Hope of reconciliation?
The marriage I knew and held on to dearly was dead as we knew it.
Wow, I felt light and clear. That realization didn’t hurt but was liberating.
I had the unique opportunity to create something new with or without her.
So many guys I speak to get stuck in this place of clinging to an already dead relationship as I did.
“But what about our vows, that’s a promise for life?”
What if she doesn’t see it that way? She’s been thinking about this for a lot longer than you. What if she’s come to another conclusion and she believes differently?
In coaching, we talk about “dropping the rope” of expectations quite a bit. This tends to be a hard topic to take consistent action on.
I want to take a deep dive with you into your unsaid and unexplained expectations.
Do you have an initiated man willing to listen deeply and hold up a mirror to your thinking, opening up blind spots?
I want to play full out and fearless with you.
Reach out today for a deep dive consultation call to get started dropping the rope.
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